The Dear MilFamily Podcast

A podcast for anyone who has a family member in the military or anyone interested in the military lifestyle.

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Mar 19th, 2019 by dearmilfamily at 7:00 am

Combat Recovery is a long process and not every program is right for everyone. In this episode, I talk to one veteran who has found help with one faith-based program that works to help the whole family. It's unique model and course is something worth taking a look at for anyone going through the recovery and reintegration process. This episode contains talk about sensitive topics such as combat trauma, suicide, and PTSD. Please be aware if you are triggered by any of these topics before listening.

Bryan Flanery is an Army Veteran and national speaker. During a deployment to Afghanistan with 1-320th Top Guns, his vehicle rolled down a ravine. He suffered injuries including a broken neck, dislocated shoulders, hip damage, ACL tears and a Traumatic Brain Injury. His unit was given a Presidential Unit Citation for their bravery in battle. By the age of 28, Bryan had endured eight significant surgeries and was struggling to manage chronic pain due to his injuries. But his toughest battle was against an unseen enemy. This enemy was far more deadly than the physical injuries he faced. Secretly, Bryan faced a battle against PTSD and combat trauma on a daily basis. Tired of the emotional, physical and spiritual pain, Bryan attempted to take his own life. Every day over 20 veterans complete suicide. Bryan is a veteran that lived. Through a miraculous intervention, his suicide attempt was unsuccessful. Reeling from the failed attempt, and still battling the trauma from his past, Bryan was invited to attend a REBOOT Combat Recovery healing course. Within only 12 weeks, his life was transformed. An awakening of faith in Bryan’s life restored his sense of purpose, wellness and joy. Soon, Bryan was leading trauma healing courses and helping others who had walked the same road he had walked. Due to his extensive community involvement, Bryan was recognized in 2015 by the Nashville Business Journal as an Impact Veteran during their inaugural Veteran Awards. Today, Bryan has personally facilitated courses serving over 300 military families and speaks around the country inspiring civilians and veterans alike. In 2017, Bryan earned his Bachelors of Social Work from Lipscomb University. He is the father of four children and lives in Clarksville, TN.

Find Bryan:

https://rebootalliance.com/

Twitter: @RebootBryan

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Mar 12th, 2019 by dearmilfamily at 7:00 am

Have you always wanted to write a book about your military life experiences? One military spouse is on a mission to help others tell their stories and experiences. We talk about the whole process of how an idea becomes a book. If you're an aspiring author or know one, this will be one episode you will want to listen to as Brunella spills some industry secrets and helps you choose the right path for you to get published.

Brunella Costagliola is an Award-winning author and best-selling editor. She was awarded the Silver Medal from the Military Writers Society of America for her children's picture book My Dad Got Hurt. What Can I Do? Helping Military Children Cope with a Brain-Injured Parent. Brunella specializes in writing and editing military books, often helping her clients navigate the publishing industry and guiding them on the path of successfully becoming published authors. In her spare time, she enjoys cooking traditional Italian cuisine, and taking pictures of her two resilient military children. She is a proud Air Force wife.

Find Brunella:

www.themilitaryeditor.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/themilitaryeditor

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Mar 5th, 2019 by dearmilfamily at 7:00 am

PTSD is a topic you often hear about in the military community. But it's often in the context of one traumatizing event. In this episode, I explore the topic of PTSD with one veteran but also how you can get re-traumatized or have many little events can affect you. We do talk about workplace sexual harassment and instances of gun violence, so be advised before listening with young children or if you are triggered by those topics.

Annette is a military spouse, mother to two teenagers (one being in college) and veteran who served in the Army for over seventeen years as a Chemical officer including a deployment to Iraq and Afghanistan. She retired and decided to trade in her boots for converse sneakers to be able to make up for lost time with her now teenagers. Since her retirement she has PCSd from Fort Polk, LA to Fairfax , VA to support her husbands military career. Her blog A Wild Ride Called Life incorporates stories from her post military life in which she shares how she lives life with being a mom suffering from PTSD, anxiety and depression. Along with writing her blogs she also writes for other social media sources and does a podcast. You can check out more about Annette on Instagram, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, Medium, The Mighty, ITunes and Podbean.

Find Annette:

www.awildridecalledlife.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/awildridecalledlife/

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/awhitt24

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/awildridecalledlife

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Feb 26th, 2019 by dearmilfamily at 7:00 am

I'm continuing to talk about transitioning from service by getting the perspective of a female service member who found that transitioning from active duty to the reserves and going back to active duty worked for her for a time in her life. Transition from service never looks the same for everyone, but we do talk about some things a service member can do to help themselves and others.

Mandy Snell is the managing director of Reboot Strategy. She is a Project Manager who loves helping business owners get the right things done, so they have time to do the things they actually want to do. A United States Naval Academy graduate, Mandy started her naval career leading 100+ person teams, managing ship operational and maintenance scheduling. She then transitioned into the Intelligence community as a Reservist, where she spent over a decade helping seasoned military leaders assess their operating environment. She really found her niche as a Reservist, implementing new programs by reorganizing existing teams. Mandy now focuses on helping small business owners use their unique qualities to develop and refine their own best practices. She excels at teaching others how to build and retain high-performance teams and particularly enjoys mentoring women in male-dominated industries. As a veteran and military spouse, she also has a soft spot for helping military members and spouses make successful transitions as they leave the service.

Find Mandy:

https://virginiabusinesscoach.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebootstrategy/

Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mandy-snell/

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Feb 19th, 2019 by dearmilfamily at 7:00 am

The subject of military spouses "serving" too can be quite controversial and divide many in the military community. In this episode, I talk to one MilSpouse author that says "they serve too." We discussed the many ways that military families are often overlooked in support of the service member. We also talked about ways to bridge the gap between the military and civilian worlds.  

Chantel Olson is an author, speaker and coach. Her new book is entitled "Homefront Warriors -- Not all warriors wear a uniform," an international bestseller. Her mission is to bring awareness to the Homefront Warriors, the spouses, children, parents, etc., left at home when their loved one is serving in the military. She founded the Homefront Warrior Foundation to bring awareness to the many issues military families face. In addition, she designed a special dog tag, based on the military tags, that represents the Homefront Warriors.

Find Chantel:

https://www.facebook.com/chantelinspires/

www.chantelinspires.com

chantel@chantelinspires.com

https://www.facebook.com/Homefront-Warriors-Foundation-Inc-1753483831630029/

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Feb 12th, 2019 by dearmilfamily at 7:00 am

This episode is all about a different kind of love story that you may not hear as much about in the military community. Since "Don't Ask Don't Tell" has been repealed, lesbian and gay couples are able to live their lives without fear. But what was it like before that? And what is it like now? I talk to one half of a military couple (Ashley) about their love story and the unique point of view of many LGBTQ military families.  

Ashley Broadway-Mack is the President and founding board member of the American Military Partner Association (AMPA). It was through AMPA that Ashley found her new passion to assist other LGBT military families by working through the existing inequalities we face. Through her over 20 years as a military spouse, she is able to combine the traditions of the Army, while moving towards its vision of tomorrow. She is honored to serve as the President of AMPA where she leads the organization in a strategic mission of education, advocacy, and support for our modern military families. Ashley was recently awarded the Secretary of the Army Public Service Award by the Honorable Eric K. Fanning and has received the Commander’s Award for Public Service by Lieutenant General Darrell Williams. Before co-founding AMPA, Ashley taught elementary school for 13 years, specializing in dyslexia, English as a Second Language, and children with reading difficulties. She currently resides in Alexandria, Virginia with her spouse Heather and their children, Carson and Carley.

Find Ashley:

www.militarypartners.org

https://www.facebook.com/LGBTmilitaryfamilies/

https://www.instagram.com/lgbtmilitaryspouse/

 
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Feb 5th, 2019 by dearmilfamily at 7:00 am

Being in the midst of military life, you and your family may not be thinking about transitioning out because you're just trying to survive. Or you may be thinking about it constantly, waiting for that day until you can say goodbye to the nomad lifestyle. Either way it's always good to have a plan and think ahead about what you will do in life after the military. In this episode, I talk to Doug Nordman an expert at transitioning out of military service and helping others to think through all of their options once they feel their time in service is up. 

Doug Nordman served for 20 years of active duty in the U.S. Navy’s submarine force and retired in 2002 at the age of 41. He and his spouse, a retired Navy Reservist, reached financial independence in the late 1990s on a high savings rate. They’ve lived in Hawaii for over 29 years, and their daughter was born & raised on Oahu. These days Doug enjoys surfing, slow travel, writing, reading, home improvement, and more surfing. Doug is the author of “The Military Guide To Financial Independence And Retirement” and founder of The-Military-Guide.com. (He donates all of his writing revenues to military-friendly charities.) Their daughter and her spouse are both active-duty Navy, so military personal finance is an important family topic... almost as important as surfing.

Find Doug:

The-Military-Guide.com 

NordsNords@Gmail.com

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Jan 29th, 2019 by dearmilfamily at 7:00 am

What would it be like if you were able to stay in one place for some time and put down some roots? The common military experience is to PCS and often. But what if your spouse is in the military, and you don't move? Stay by my friends and family? Yes, please! But of course the military has its own idea. And if you plan on staying in until retirement, you will have to move eventually. It can be a jarring experience that first time you do have to PCS. In this episode, I talk to a Navy spouse whose family was able to stay in the Pacific Northwest for a while, and what it was like to be a seasoned spouse and move to a new area. 

Kara Ludlow has been a Navy wife since 2001, marrying an enlisted submariner who is now a Naval Nurse Corps officer. She is a Pacific Northwest native currently living the California dream with her husband and 3 kids in sunny San Diego. She writes regularly on her blog at karaludlow.com about all things in this unpredictable military life. As a mentor and blogger for the Military Spouse Advocacy Network, she connects with new Navy spouses to guide them in their own journeys. Kara has seen first-hand how not all military spouses are connected in natural support groups. She knows how important relationships are, and encourages all military spouses to reach out, speak up and ask for help. She is a graduate of Seattle Pacific University, and as a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist, Kara can often be found reading cookbooks like juicy novels and is usually thinking about what's for dinner.

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Jan 22nd, 2019 by dearmilfamily at 7:00 am

There is a part of the military community that sometimes goes unnoticed. Those members are known as reservists. The reserve forces can go back and forth on active duty several times, but you may have heard "two weekends a month & two weeks out of the year." The reserves are definitely an integral part of the U.S. Military, but sometimes families don't feel as a part of the military community as they should. I get one spouse's perspective on this episode. 

Lana Phillips and her husband started dating at 16. They got married at 19 years old, right after he graduated from bootcamp and A school. Knowing she wanted to build a life that would be complimentary to her husband's military career, she eventually decided to go to college and become a software engineer. Since graduating in 2012, she's built websites for the likes of celebrities like Britney Spears and the Backstreet Boys. She's helped build software with a company that's responsible for sending out coupons for major retailers based on customer data. And she has also spent over 2 years working for major online retailers Zappos and 6pm, which are Amazon owned companies. After working for Amazon/Zappos/6pm, she decided to build an ecommerce business for herself called AmericanPrideSpot.com. Now, she's trying to use her platform as a military spouse, and with her business that will allow her to connect with other military families and the friends, family, and awesome supporters of the military.

Find Lana:

Shop: American Pride Spot

Facebook: facebook.com/americanprideheadquarters

Instagram: instagram.com/americanpridehq/

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Dec 25th, 2018 by dearmilfamily at 7:00 am

Happy Holidays! Here is a bonus episode about going home for the holidays with Jennifer McDonald. 

Find Jen:

Facebook I Twitter, Pinterest & Instagram @jenmcdonald88